MENTAL HEALTH IN THE HEART OF MAUN

Almost all of us have felt, at some point, the desire to fit in. We want to be accepted, to belong to a group, and to feel that we are not rejected or seen as strange. But sometimes, in order to be accepted, we begin to hide important parts of ourselves. We silence our opinions, hide our talents, change the way we act, or try too hard to look like everyone else. Today, we will talk about identity and personal diversity, not to say that being ourselves will always be easy, but to remember that we do not need to become a copy of anyone else in order to have value. What Is Identity? Identity responds to a very deep question: what makes someone who they are? It does not refer only to a name, an age, or the place where someone lives, but to everything that gradually defines their individuality: history, values, interests, talents, dreams, relationships, beliefs, culture, roles, ways of thinking, feeling, learning, and relating to others. The roles we play in life are also part of identity. ...

After understanding that guilt can either guide us or destroy us, we need to take one more step. Very often, guilt does not come alone: it becomes mixed with shame. And when that happens, the suffering becomes deeper, because the person no longer only examines what they did; they begin to question who they are. Guilt mainly looks at a behavior: something I did, something I failed to do, a decision, a word, an omission. Shame touches a more intimate place: the image I have of myself, the way I believe others see me, and the value I feel I have as a person. That is why, when guilt becomes mixed with destructive shame, the pain is no longer only connected to the past; it begins to settle into the person’s identity. The person no longer says only, “I made a mistake,” but begins to say, “I am an unworthy person,” “I am contemptible,” “I no longer deserve respect.” “I DID SOMETHING WRONG” IS NOT THE SAME AS “I AM BAD” Saying “I did something wrong” allows us to look at a specific behavior. I...