Positive Thinking – Speaking Kindly to Myself Also Helps

Many times, without realizing it, we are very hard on ourselves. We say things we would never say to a friend: “I’m a failure,” “I never do anything right,” “I’m not good enough.” These inner words are not harmless; they influence how we feel and how we act.

But… what if the way you talk to yourself could help you instead of bringing you down? What if you learned to treat yourself with the same kindness you show to someone you care about?

This post invites you to discover how positive thinking is not pretending everything is fine, but learning to speak to yourself with respect, understanding, and support.

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1. My Inner Dialogue Matters

What you say to yourself carries weight. Your mind is always listening. If the message is negative, your mood drops; if it is kind, your strength grows.

It’s not about lying to yourself—it’s about being fair to yourself.

“My inner words affect how I feel.”

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2. Positive Thinking Is Not Ignoring Problems

Positive thinking does not mean denying what hurts or acting like nothing is wrong. It means acknowledging difficulties without tearing yourself down because of them.

You can say, “This is hard,” instead of “I can’t handle this.”

“Being realistic can also be kind.”

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3. Changing How I Speak to Myself Changes How I Feel

When you make a mistake, you can choose between insulting yourself or learning. Phrases like “I’m learning,” “I can try again,” or “This doesn’t define me” help regulate emotions.

A mistake does not define who you are.

“Making mistakes doesn’t take away my value.”

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4. Inner Kindness Builds Self-Esteem

Speaking to yourself with respect doesn’t make you weak—it makes you stronger. Self-esteem doesn’t come from being perfect, but from treating yourself well even when you fail.

The way you talk to yourself can become your greatest support.

“I can be my own support.”

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5. Noticing Negative Thoughts Is the First Step

Sometimes negative thoughts appear automatically. Noticing them is key: what am I telling myself right now? Would I talk this way to someone I care about?

Change begins with awareness.

“Noticing my thoughts gives me power.”

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6. Practicing Kind Phrases Helps

You can train your mind with simple phrases:

• “I’m doing the best I can.”

• “I’m not perfect, and that’s okay.”

• “I can improve over time.”

Repeating them is not weakness—it’s self-care.

“What I practice grows.”

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7. Treating Myself Well Is Also Growing Well

Learning to speak to yourself with respect helps you manage stress, make better decisions, and feel more confident.

Taking care of what you say to yourself inside is a way of taking care of yourself outside.

“Speaking kindly to myself is also health.”

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Final Considerations

Positive thinking is not about smiling all the time, but about not becoming your own harshest critic. Speaking to yourself with kindness helps you get back up, learn, and keep moving forward with more calm and confidence.

Treating yourself well is also a way to grow well.

With care,
Dr. Arturo José Sánchez Hernández,
your friend in health promotion 💛🌿✨