Jealousy I.

The Partner is Not a Possession

Romantic love is generally accompanied by a certain degree of fear of losing the relationship.

-   Love without jealousy is not sent from above.

-   Love and jealousy are twin brothers.

A bit of jealousy can make one feel loved and special, seasoning the relationship when present in the right place, time, and measure. However, jealousy can become pathological and suffocating.

-   Whoever marries a jealous person lives in purgatory.

-   Jealousy, like salt, enhances the flavor a little but can cause harm in excess.

This occurs when jealousy is excessively high, accompanied by great insecurity in one's ability to emotionally retain the other person, unjustified distrust in them and others, and fear of being abandoned and ridiculed. This leads to interpreting any ordinary event in the partner's life as an indication of interest or romantic relationships with others.

-   Some see smoke where there's no fire.

-   A jealous spouse finds hairs in the bed.

-   A jealous man makes a mountain out of a molehill.

-   What madness dictates, jealousy believes.

From here, a set of actions arise, including searching through clothing and social media, and conducting endless interrogations aimed at uncovering erotic intentions or infidelities.

-   Don't ask questions you don't want to hear the answers to.

-   Don't look for what you don't want to find.

Preventing contact with potential sexual competitors through constant monitoring of activities and schedules, encouraging the partner to cut ties with friends and even family, and in extreme cases, keeping them confined.

-   Covering your eyes doesn't guarantee fidelity.

Engaging in sexual activities with others as preemptive revenge for potential infidelities.

-   What is done out of spite is done poorly.

And verbal or physical violence that can have fatal consequences.

-   Violence in a relationship is like a worm in vegetables.

-   Anger, fear, and fierce jealousy are bad counselors.

FINAL CONSIDERATIONS

Romantic love often comes with the fear of losing the relationship, and a certain degree of jealousy can make one feel loved and special. However, jealousy can become pathological and suffocate the other person. This happens when the feeling is excessive and is accompanied by great insecurity, unjustified distrust, and fear of abandonment, leading to interpreting any daily act of the partner as a sign of romantic interest in someone else.

These insecurities can trigger harmful behaviors such as checking clothing and social media, conducting endless interrogations, controlling the partner's activities and schedules, encouraging them to cut ties with friends and family, and even keeping them confined. Additionally, some might resort to infidelity as preemptive revenge or to verbal or physical violence, with potentially fatal consequences. Therefore, it is crucial to recognize that a partner is not a possession and to manage jealousy in a healthy way.

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