🌸 How do victims of childhood sexual abuse perceive and feel their sexuality? 🌸

Childhood sexual abuse leaves deep scars that affect multiple aspects of a person's life, including how they perceive and experience their own sexuality in adulthood. When the abuse is perpetrated by parents, who should be the primary protectors, the emotional confusion and pain are even more devastating. This type of abuse not only causes psychological trauma but also distorts the sense of intimacy, profoundly affecting personal relationships and self-perception. 💔

🎭 The trauma and emotional confusion
People who suffered sexual abuse during childhood often feel a deep emotional confusion regarding sexuality. Intimacy, which for many is a positive experience of love and connection, may be perceived by these victims as something dark, feared, or even dirty. Abuse by parents distorts the normal boundaries between family affection and sexuality, creating a sense of betrayal and confusion about what love and desire mean. In adulthood, it is common for these individuals to have difficulties distinguishing between healthy affection and emotional or physical exploitation.

💔 The duality between attraction and rejection
Many victims experience an internal duality regarding sexuality. On one hand, they may desire to connect emotionally and physically with others, but on the other hand, that desire can be accompanied by a deep rejection of any form of sexual intimacy. This conflict may lead many people to avoid intimate relationships, fear physical closeness, or feel uncomfortable with any sign of sexual affection, even in consensual and loving relationships. 😞

🌧️ The fear of abuse and difficulty trusting
One of the most painful consequences is the persistent fear of being hurt again. People who have been victims of childhood abuse, especially when the perpetrators are their parents, often carry a lack of trust in others. This fear of being vulnerable again can make it extremely difficult to form healthy romantic and sexual relationships in adulthood. Additionally, distrust in their own emotions and desires may cause victims to constantly question their feelings toward others.

🌀 Disconnection between the body and emotions
Many victims of childhood sexual abuse experience a significant disconnection between their body and emotions. Dissociation—a survival mechanism used during the abuse—can persist into adulthood, making victims feel as if their body and emotions are separated. This phenomenon may manifest in an inability to enjoy physical pleasure or in feelings of detachment during sexual activity, as if they are not fully present. For some, sexual intimacy becomes an automatic experience, without true emotional connection. ❄️

🌿 Feelings of shame and guilt
Shame and guilt are common emotions among victims of childhood sexual abuse. These feelings can persist into adulthood, affecting how the person sees themselves and their ability to enjoy healthy sexual relationships. Victims often internalize the guilt of the abuse, wrongly believing they did something to deserve it. As a result, the shame associated with sexuality can block the enjoyment of a full and healthy sexual life. These individuals may feel dirty or unworthy of experiencing pleasure, reinforcing a cycle of self-rejection. 😔

⚡ Sexual hyperactivity or repression
The consequences of childhood abuse can manifest at two extremes. Some people may develop sexual hyperactivity, unconsciously seeking to recreate the dynamics of power and control experienced during the abuse, or trying to find validation in sexual encounters that do not necessarily fill their emotional void. On the other hand, some victims may choose to completely repress their sexuality, avoiding any form of sexual relationship or intimate contact out of fear of reliving the trauma. Both extremes reflect the deep and distorting impact of abuse on sexuality in adulthood.

🛑 The difficulty in establishing boundaries
A common consequence of childhood sexual abuse is the inability to establish healthy boundaries in adulthood. Having had their personal boundaries violated from a young age, many victims grow up without a clear notion of what is acceptable in a relationship. This can lead to toxic or abusive relationships, where the person doesn’t know how to say "no" or how to protect themselves from harmful behaviors. This pattern perpetuates the cycle of abuse and chaos in adult life, deeply affecting mental and emotional health.

🌟 Final Considerations: The path to healthy sexuality
The impact of childhood abuse on an adult's sexual life is devastating but not irreversible. Through a deep therapeutic process, victims can learn to recognize and dismantle the distortions that abuse has created in their perception of sexuality. Understanding that abuse does not define their worth and that they deserve to live a full and loving sexual life is a fundamental step on the path to healing. Surrounding themselves with respectful people, seeking professional help, and developing a healthy relationship with themselves are key to rebuilding their sexuality and finding the emotional balance needed to enjoy intimacy.

With love,
Dr. Arturo José Sánchez Hernández, your friend in health promotion. 💙

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