What others will say

Decide to act righteously. (Job 11:13)

From the moment we are born, we are in constant contact with the opinions and reactions of others to how we think, feel, and act. This feedback from our social environment helps us learn which behaviors are acceptable and which are not, guiding our personal and moral development.

An inappropriate stance towards these opinions is constantly worrying about "what others will say" and always seeking approval. This can lead us to behave or live in ways that are very different from what we truly desire and are.

- Constantly worrying about "what others will say" is a thief of freedom and opportunities.

- The fear of what others will say binds more strongly than a chain.

The situation becomes more complicated when we try to please everyone, given the sheer number and contradictions of their opinions.

- You can't please everyone.

- It's impossible to make everyone happy.

On the other hand, completely disregarding or dismissing others' opinions, along with social norms and conventions, can lead us to unnecessarily disrespect the rules of where we are, causing violent reactions from others.

- How you treat others is a psychic boomerang.

- You reap what you sow.

- If you don't like what you're getting, take a look at what you're giving.

A healthy attitude is to consider and respect others' opinions as a right of each individual, but to act firmly according to our own convictions about what is right or necessary. This sometimes contrasts with the majority opinion and requires resisting pressures.

- Do what you must and fear no one.

- If a gentleman looks within himself and is confident he has acted rightly, what has he to fear or worry about? (Confucius)

- When you do something convinced it is your duty to do so, don't hide no matter how unfavorable the judgment others might form of you and your actions. If the action is bad, don't do it. If it is good, why fear those who unjustly condemn you? (Epictetus)

 FINAL CONSIDERATIONS

From birth, we are in touch with the opinions of others, influencing our attitudes and moral development. Worrying too much about "what others will say" can lead us to live in ways that differ from what we truly desire, while completely ignoring opinions can create conflicts.

A healthy attitude is to respect others' opinions but act firmly according to our own convictions, even if this contrasts with the majority. Finding a balance between respecting others and maintaining our authenticity is key.

Related Posts: Authenticity I, Authenticity II, Shame, Assertiveness, The Golden Rule of Morality, Tact, Courtesy, Courage.

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