🌟 Attitudes of Parents towards a Child with Disabilities: How to Handle Them in a Healthy Way 🌟

When a child has a disability, the emotions and reactions of the parents can vary. Although their intention is to protect and care for their child, sometimes the attitudes they adopt can affect not only the child with disabilities but also their other children and the family dynamics in general. It is important to recognize these attitudes in order to address them in a healthy manner and ensure the well-being of all family members.

💬 1. Exclusive focus on the child with disabilities

One of the most common reactions is that parents concentrate all their attention on the child with disabilities, forgetting the emotional and affective needs of their other children. Although special care is necessary, this can lead to feelings of neglect or resentment in the other children, affecting family balance.

  • Suggestion: Maintaining balanced attention to all children is essential. Spend quality time with each one, creating special moments and reaffirming that all of them are equally important within the family.

❌ 2. Denial of the disability

Some parents may deny their child's disability. This may stem from fear or the desire for their child not to face difficulties. However, this denial may prevent them from seeking the necessary help in time, which can hinder the child's development.

  • Suggestion: Accepting the reality of the disability is fundamental in order to seek appropriate support, such as therapies or educational resources. Acceptance is the first step toward offering the child an environment that helps them grow and develop fully.

🤷‍♀️ 3. Excessive overprotection

To avoid their child suffering or facing obstacles, some parents tend to overprotect the child with disabilities. While the instinct to protect is natural, this can limit their independence and ability to develop important skills.

  • Suggestion: It's crucial to encourage the child’s independence, allowing them to make decisions and perform tasks according to their capabilities. Guiding without overprotecting will give them the confidence to face challenges in their daily life.

🎯 4. Comparison with other children

Some parents unconsciously compare the child with disabilities to their siblings or other children. These comparisons can create feelings of inadequacy and affect the child's self-esteem.

  • Suggestion: Every child is unique and should be valued for their own abilities. Instead of comparing, it’s important to celebrate their achievements and acknowledge their efforts, reinforcing their self-esteem and confidence.

💡 5. Avoiding discussions about the disability

Out of fear of making the child uncomfortable or not knowing how to approach the subject, some parents avoid talking openly about the disability, which can lead to confusion and anxiety for the child. The lack of dialogue can also affect siblings, who may not understand the situation.

  • Suggestion: Speaking naturally about the disability is essential for the child to understand and accept it. This also facilitates communication within the family and helps siblings better understand the situation, fostering a supportive and understanding environment.

🤝 6. Completely delegating care to professionals

Some parents may think that, by having the support of doctors or therapists, they no longer need to be actively involved in their child's development. However, the presence and emotional support of parents are irreplaceable.

  • Suggestion: While professionals are an important part of the support team, the role of parents is fundamental. Actively participating in the care and development process, engaging in therapies and activities, will provide the child with the emotional security they need.

😰 7. Feeling guilty

Some parents may feel responsible for their child’s disability, leading to guilt and self-criticism. This feeling can drive them to pour all their energy into compensating for what they perceive as a mistake, neglecting their own well-being and that of the rest of the family.

  • Suggestion: It's important for parents to understand that the disability is not their fault. Seeking emotional support, whether through therapy or support groups, can help lighten this burden and focus on the present and the child’s real needs.

🏃 8. Avoiding external help due to fear of stigma

In some cultures or environments, disability is associated with stigma or negative beliefs, leading parents to avoid seeking support or specialized treatment. This can deprive the child of necessary interventions for their development.

  • Suggestion: Being informed and breaking the stigma is crucial for the child’s well-being. It’s necessary to be brave, face social judgment, and always seek what’s best for the child’s development and inclusion.

💼 9. Focusing exclusively on medical solutions

Some parents focus solely on finding medical solutions or therapies, forgetting the importance of the emotional well-being of both the child and the family. They concentrate on "fixing" the disability instead of learning how to live with it.

  • Suggestion: In addition to medical and therapeutic interventions, it is essential to pay attention to the child’s emotional health and encourage activities that promote their happiness and overall well-being.

😶 10. Social isolation of the family

Facing their child’s disability, some parents withdraw socially, distancing themselves from family and friends out of fear of judgment or discomfort. This can lead to feelings of loneliness for both the parents and the child.

  • Suggestion: Maintaining a social support network is essential. It’s important to surround the family with understanding people who can provide emotional support and help them feel connected to the outside world.

😓 11. Emotional stress and exhaustion

Caring for a child with disabilities can lead to chronic stress for the parents, resulting in physical and emotional exhaustion. This stress can affect their ability to make sound decisions and care for themselves.

  • Suggestion: Self-care is key. Parents must remember that to care for their child, they must first take care of their own well-being, dedicating time to their physical and emotional needs.

🙅‍♀️ 12. Placing excessive expectations on the child with disabilities

At times, some parents may expect too much from their child, pressuring them to overcome their limitations unrealistically. This pressure can create frustration for both the child and the parents, straining their relationship.

  • Suggestion: It is important to set realistic goals based on the child’s abilities and celebrate small achievements. Fostering a positive and supportive environment is essential for their development.

🎭 13. Ignoring their own feelings

Some parents may suppress their emotions related to their child’s disability, such as sadness or frustration, for fear of appearing weak or complaining about the situation. Ignoring these feelings can create internal tension and affect their mental well-being.

  • Suggestion: It’s essential for parents to allow themselves to feel and process their emotions. Talking with a therapist or support group can be very helpful in expressing their feelings without feeling guilty.

🏠 14. Limiting the child’s life to the home environment

Some parents may restrict the child with disabilities to home activities out of fear that they will face difficulties or discrimination outside. This can limit the child’s opportunities to socialize and learn from new experiences.

  • Suggestion: It is crucial to allow the child with disabilities to participate in activities outside the home and engage in social interactions, adjusted to their abilities. This will help them develop skills and feel part of society.

💡 Final Considerations
It is normal for parents to experience a mix of emotions and attitudes when raising a child with disabilities. Recognizing these attitudes and working to manage them healthily is essential for the well-being of the entire family. 🌟 With love, patience, and the right support, parents can create an environment of growth and support for all their children, including those with disabilities.

With love,
Dr. Arturo José Sánchez Hernández
Your friend in promoting health 💙
Discover more of my works at: books2read.com/asanchez

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