Humility I.
He who lives by pride dies by loneliness.
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The ways people relate to themselves greatly influence how others treat them. One of the first conditions for being loved by others is self-love. Hence, the importance of self-love, but it has its deviations. One of these is the exaggeration of self-love accompanied by a belief in personal superiority, whether real or not, and a disregard for others' merits, which is pride.
The proud isolate themselves for various reasons; one is their disdainful and inconsiderate treatment of others, which is hurtful.
- He who lives by pride dies by loneliness.
- Humility attracts goodwill; pride drives it away.
- As long as you sow pride, you will reap isolation.
It is common for the proud to avoid admitting they are wrong, even when fully aware of it, and to not tolerate others being right. This makes it hard for them to correct mistakes and difficult to interact with them.
- The need to always be right is a sign of a vulgar mind.
- Pride never says, "I was wrong."
- You who know so much and I who know so much, if you stay silent, I will stay silent.
In response to neutral expressions, which the proud consider not in line with the excellence and superiority they believe they have, they may exhibit inappropriate and unnecessary defensive actions that generate rejection and increase their isolation.
- Pride leads to conflict; wisdom is with the humble. (Proverbs 13:10)
- Do not walk with pride upon the earth, for you will be the first to fall beneath it.
- Pride goes before destruction; a haughty spirit before a fall. (Proverbs 16:18)
- Don't puff up, and you won't burst.
They perceive giving and receiving help from those they consider inferior as humiliation, depriving themselves of the collaboration everyone needs and the pleasure of being useful by helping.
- To be truly great, one must be with people, not above them.
- He who builds a wall ends up a prisoner of the wall he built.
They feel entitled to be honored by others, which generally makes them ungrateful.
- Ingratitude is the daughter of pride.
- Gratitude and wheat only grow on good soil.
They consider only themselves and what happens to them as important, thinking only of their interests and seeing themselves as the center of everything.
- Some people haven't understood that the earth revolves around the sun, not them.
- The selfish only think of their interests. (Proverbs 18:1)
Desiring vehemently to dominate and be revered by others, they cannot tolerate being equaled or surpassed, avoiding it with actions that can be very destructive, especially if they have power.
- Pride and power are a dangerous combination.
Another deviation related to self-love is vanity, which involves a high self-concept based on useless or insignificant qualities or achievements, accompanied by an excessive desire for praise and admiration from others.
- To the vain, all other men are admirers.
- The crucible for silver and the furnace for gold, but people are tested by their praise. (Proverbs 27:21)
Differences between pride and vanity include that pride involves satisfaction with significant and useful achievements or qualities, while vanity involves satisfaction with worthless or insignificant attributes.
- Vanity is the shine of a broken jar.
- Bragging and worthlessness are the themes of fools.
- He who stands on tiptoe does not stand firm.
- Empty glory blooms but bears no fruit.
Pride involves a thirst for dominance and reverence from all, while vanity desires approval and to be considered exceptionally gifted.
- Vanity is the idle pleasure of pride.
Vanity has the same drawbacks as pride in terms of hindering relationships with others and making it difficult to recognize and overcome mistakes. Additionally, the vain constantly worry about appearances, becoming ridiculous by pretending to be what they are not or to have what they do not.
- As long as we think we are worth what we appear to be, we will go astray.
- How can the funeral matter more than the dead, the wedding more than the love, or the container more than the content?
- Why so much effort to impress people who don't care about us?
The vain place great importance on others' comments, causing constant unnecessary worries and inhibitions.
- He who heeds gossip finds no rest and cannot live in peace. (Ecclesiasticus 28:16)
- He who gets indignant over false rumors invites more rumors.
- Neither are you better because they praise you nor worse because they scorn you; you are what you are.
- It doesn't matter if they speak ill of you: you won't dissolve.
Although this quality doesn't completely destroy merit, it tarnishes it.
- An ounce of vanity spoils a pound of merit.
- He who praises himself with vanity, devalues his merit.
FINAL CONSIDERATIONS
The ways people relate to themselves influence how others treat them. Self-love is crucial for being loved, but its exaggeration can lead to pride, characterized by a belief in personal superiority and disdain for others' merits. The proud isolate themselves due to their disdainful treatment, inability to recognize mistakes, and rejection of help. This isolation and rejection increase their loneliness and complicate their relationships.
Vanity, another deviation of self-love, involves a high self-concept based on insignificant qualities or achievements and a desire for admiration. Although both vanity and pride hinder relationships and make it difficult to correct mistakes, vanity focuses on seeking approval. The vain worry about others' comments, causing constant worries and inhibitions.
Related entries: Humility (Second Part), Humility ((Third part)
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Humility (First part) by Dr. Arturo José Sánchez Hernández (Rapula)
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